The Happiness Expert: Why You Don’t Feel Loved Even When You Are | Sonja Lyubomirsky
How can you be surrounded by people who love you and still feel completely alone?
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The Happiness Expert: Why You Don’t Feel Loved Even When You Are | Sonja Lyubomirsky
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Oct 25, 2026
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How can you be surrounded by people who love you and still feel completely alone?
In this episode, I sit down with distinguished psychology professor Sonja Lyubomirsky to explore the difference between being loved and actually feeling loved. We discuss how our upbringing and past relationships can shape the way we recognise affection, why some people unknowingly keep love at a distance, and whether the problem lies in our relationships or in the patterns we bring into them.
Sonja shares the psychology behind her new book,
How to Feel Loved
, including five mindsets designed to help us build deeper, more satisfying connections. We also talk about why hiding the parts of ourselves we consider unlovable prevents love from fully reaching us, how the simple phrase “tell me more” can transform a conversation, and whether social media has made us feel more connected or more alone.
If love never seems to feel like enough, this conversation may help you understand why.
You can find Sonja’s book,
How to Feel Loved: Five Mindsets That Get You More of What Matters Most
, wherever books are sold.
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